Friday morning, I was eating breakfast at Hartsfield airport on my way back from Atlanta. I wanted a protein based breakfast, as opposed to just a carb one, so I went to an actual restaurant to eat. Well, it was really a bar, but it served breakfast, so that worked.
There were two young ladies serving the customers. At one point, they went behind the bar to enter their orders and get drinks (non-alcoholic ones) for their customers. They were chatting, as co-workers tend to do. The one girl was insisting that her previous evening qualified as a date, even though apparently "he" was insisting that it didn't. I was just overhearing and of course didn't ask any questions, but it sounded like a date to me. Apparently, his contention was it was not a date because it was a casual restaurant (I think it was Five Guys). Her contention was that it was a date because they had a meal together.
I myself have started trying to date again. I'm not good at the whole dating thing. And it occurs to me that part of the reason for this is the ambiguity of what is a date.
If you just meet for coffee, is that a date? I think meeting for drinks would constitute a date, so why not coffee? Coffee is much more casual, it's true. But still it would qualify, provided other conditions are met.
Did one of you call/text/email the other to arrange the excursion? If yes, I say it's a date.
Was it a meeting of just the two of you? If not, if there's a group of people getting together, then I would say it's not a date. Unless of course, he and you do something afterward just the two of you. Then it would qualify.
And yet, if someone asked me how many dates I've had with the guy I've recently met, I'd be hard-pressed to answer the question. Because all three meetings fit the qualifications above, and yet, they were all casual meetings. First, lunch. Which was really a fix-up. And so a date of sorts, but really a quasi-date because we spent the whole time trying to figure out if we liked each other enough to have a second - well, date. So I guess, yes, that means the first meeting was a date. Hmmm....
The second "date" was for lunch on a Sunday morning. Again, a very casual meeting. I did pick him up at his home. And I saw his place when I dropped him off. And we kissed for the first time. So perhaps that really does count as a date too.
Our third date was for snacks, he called it. I would have called it drinks, except we didn't sit at the bar. It was a quick meeting - only an hour or so.
I think what's bothering me is that all our "dates" - and I guess I really need to call them dates - have been in the daytime. And little romance has been involved, other than a few kisses at our second date.
So maybe it's just my definition, but I'm counting these three dates as dates, but I won't really feel like this guy and I are "dating" until we have dinner out a few times. And maybe even a movie or something else. Even a show or a concert would qualify. Just something a little less casual. And at night. :)
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